By Patricia Spradley

Being a mother is not easy. Though parenting is a team effort, the role of mother is burdened by unsolicited advice that places undue pressure on mothers. She is told to do this and that to have the child turn out a certain way. Everybody seems to know what she should do.
The intent of this article is not to minimize the well-deserved recognition of Mother’s Day, but rather to write about how mothers see themselves. There is no perfect way to be a mother. Some do not have husbands, others live with female partners, some are in conventional family structures, others are raising their children with the help of the “village”, some are stay-at-home moms, others go to work, etc.
Moms are special and have a multitude of jobs, from being an at-home teacher to being an emotion coach. But all too often society defines these jobs as having the goal of turning your child into an independent, productive adult.
The unique skill sets that mothers use when rearing children are transferable. For example, they learn to really listen to their children, possessing keen skills to read between the lines. And then they carefully exercise wisdom and fairness—a task that can be quite overwhelming, but necessary for keeping the peace. Mothers teach lessons of courage, strength, and hope. And a mother is vital to the health of a family. So, in addition to all the wonderful skills and attributes of mothers, how else do they see themselves?
Mothers, you are awesome and not solely because of the title! More time should be devoted for mothers to celebrate themselves! Looking in the mirror, may seem a little scary for some. For others it may even seem selfish. But do it! Mothers are so complex that taking the time to carefully and closely look at all they are, should be required. It is my prayer, that when mothers look in the mirror, they see the beautiful creatures that God made them to be. Marvel at the determined woman looking back at you! This is the same woman that has successfully gotten through tough situations that some thought were impossible. Appreciate each line or mark that has appeared over the years. These are the marks of a true warrior woman! Applaud the curves that you wished for as a young woman. Those curves are now the envy of folks who are not willing to admit it.
Are you staring back at a woman―looking a little tired or worn out―wondering what happened? No worries. That is what “alone time” is for. Unwinding a little bit is something all mothers need occasionally. It is time to do “You!” The mother in the mirror deserves it. Getting some alone time will spark creativity and productivity and help you discover and remember who you are.
When mothers look in the mirror, the focus should always be on the Masterpiece staring back! Mothers have the paint brush to be anything they want to be. It depends how badly they want it. Use your resources and create a village.
Moms, when you look in the mirror, see the gifts of self-love, acknowledgement, encouragement, and celebration! When you look in the mirror, know that you already have everything you need. Stop looking past it. Take your time to look at the magnificent Mother In The Mirror! ■

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!